This is weird, and it’s neat at the same time.
Aside from a little white-ness, I have the exact same hair I had at 17. It’s my saving grace. In the locker room, men make little self comparisons (no ladies, believe it or not we don’t make that comparison – you know the one. Men just don’t roll that way). Back on topic: I see men in their 30’s who still have bodies like they did in their 20’s. I see men older than me, who, based on wardrobe, are far richer than I.
But, I do not fret. I have more hair on the top of my head than they do. All of them, younger and older. I giggle at the men who panic in the face of a receding hairline, and shave their heads, like PeeWee Herman: “I meant to do that!”
In my mind, this makes everything even.
Now, the bad part. God, in his infinite wisdom, decided that if He was going to bless me with a lifelong head full of hair, there would be a price to pay.
I also have skin like I was 17. I’m 43 years old. My mother told me, when I was in my early 20’s and my skin still hadn’t cleared up, “Don’t worry, it’ll clear up by the time you’re 30”.
But, at this point in my life, it’s cool. I’m not so self-conscious about it anymore. If I had to choose between having a headful of hair and adolescent skin or being bald and having clear skin, it’s not even a contest.
I’m beginning to think that hair is tied to the self worth of men the way breasts are to women. But then again, I could be wrong. Most seem obsessed with being so skinny they no longer have breasts, which IMHO is a shame. But maybe “skininess” is the physical characteristic women tie to self worth, as men do hair.
And in both genders, the tying of the biological to self worth is probably a societal construct. I’ve had many women tell me that, although they’d never say so publicly, bald (not shaved) heads are turnoffs. And men aren’t stupid, we pick up on this.
The same probably goes for the women/weight connection. Or the women/breast connection. Men cannot help what they are attracted to, and women pick up on this. But, I need to give it more thought.
I just think it’s weird that the two things I had always thought would change the most drastically with my body since adolescence never happened (at least not yet).