Since weight, health, self-perception, and body consciousness seem to be big topics lately, I’ve been doing a lot of introspection about this. And in my introspection, I found an interesting side issue. Let me see if I can properly express what I’m trying to say.
There is a subset of heterosexual men who enjoy seeing females in “real woman” form. I belong to this subset. Although we are called many names, I actually believe we are the majority of men. Our sex symbols might include Kirstie Alley (yes, Kirstie Alley before or after Jenny Craig), Trishia Yearwood, America Ferrera, for the tackier among us there was Anna Nichole Smith, and of course, there’s the twin pinnacles of full-figured sex symbols: Marilyn Monroe and Jane Mansfield. There are many, many others that come to mind. The point is, a girl can be a size twelve or more and still be a sex symbol to millions of American men.
Quick, name an group of equivalent men. You know, guys who aren’t chiseled, but flabby, even fat, yet are considered sex symbols to millions of American girls. Go on, look it up – I’ll wait.
And no cheating. Don’t list someone who is considered a sex symbol because they are are wealthy, or have a certain amount of charm. I’d like to see your list of men who are loved for their bodies even though their bodies are not ideal.
No? OK, just one, then. And although sweet, “my husband” doesn’t count, because the discussion here is focusing on celebrity sex symbols, and the reasons spouses are considered sexy are far more complex than what we’re discussing.
If you can find one, you’re doing better than me.
You see, it occurred to me that if you are a woman and “bigger”, you can still be a sex symbol. Just accentuate your boobs and look at the camera a certain way. If you’re a man, you’d better hit the gym, or be relegated to “Uncle Harry” roles.
It’s a double standard that had never occurred to me before, until now.
And we men are not even allowed to whine about it, lest we be called wimps.